Remember this movie?
Hell yeah you do. How could you forget? Look at that beautiful dumb idiot; who hasn’t lost themselves in those eyes for a week or two … OK, definitely not the point.
I’ve spent a considerable amount of time, as some might suggest, starring in my own Failure to Launch movie. Produced by: me. Edited by: me. Starring: me. Released by: no one, because that’s the point, isn’t it.
I’ve been thinking about this issue considerably over the last year. That’s one of the benefits to inaction; lots of time to think. The problem is, the thinking doesn’t really yield clarity. If anything, the world of options perpetuates a world of inaction. There’s that … and there will be more of that.
But there’s also the issue of who you surround yourself with and how that affects your launch trajectory. or crash zone as the case may be. I’ll give you one guess which of those outcomes defines my recent experience.
There’s been a lot written about how your circle of friends, family, colleagues, and mentors affects your ability, desire, and chances of success. I’m no psychologist, so don’t take my word for it:
- Entrepreneur, The 4 Types of People to Surround Yourself With for Success
- Inc., How to Surround Yourself with the Right People (Even If You Can’t Stand Your Relatives)
- Forbes, Surround Yourself With The Right People
That shit is all fine and good, but pay close attention to this comment in the last bullet: “While your success can be determined in part by whom you surround yourself with, it can also be determined in part by whom you choose to not surround yourself with.”
Not every hot-shit startup guru or Fortune 100 CEO is going to empower you to succeed. Not every made-it-to-the-top professional is going to give you the advice and expertise that will empower positive action. And not everyone you love or everyone who loves you is designed to be your support system.
What I’m trying to say is: measure people not by what they look like on paper but rather what they bring to you personally. Balance the expertise and experience they bring with the emotions you feel when you’re around them. One end of that equation may be invaluable; the other end may be inadequate.
But most importantly, buck the fuck up. If you don’t think you can do it, no one else is going to be able to convince you. And this truth is probably why I’m currently engulfed in flames on the side of the road, waiting for a pick-me-up from the AAA service I forgot to renew.